We will be meeting the potential birthparents this Thursday, at 11AM in St. Louis! I am really excited, but I'm also just as nervous because I have no idea what to expect, and know that we have no guarantees at all. It is really awkward meeting someone you don't know at all, but you are hoping will choose to give you something very special that they have. Kinda like a job interview...but way worse! Please pray that everything goes well, and that God's will is done no matter what the outcome. And pray that everything is done for the best interests of the baby.
P.S. Someone let Hilarie know when the meeting time is please. She was wanting to know so she could pray at the right time, and we all know that she has a direct line to God, as evidenced by Adalyn's (or Bella's?) miraculous rear-end cure!
This is probably the last you will hear until the meeting is all over, so hopefully we will have some more information when we get back, one way or the other.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!
Well I wasn't planning on making this post because I really wanted to wait until we had more definite information one way or the other before saying anything. However, since this blog is titled "Adoption Adventures" I figure that this is one of our adventures no matter how it turns out. So, yes Mom, even though I told you to keep it to yourself, since I decided to post it here you have my permission to spread the word to other family if you want to. Or you can just direct them to this blog.
I am very excited because Nate and I got an email today about a possible birth mother. This was definitely out of the blue because I figured we had months to wait before we would even be considered at all. This isn't a normal situation and there certainly isn't anything definite, which is why I was cautious about sharing it. The birth mother is 2 months pregnant, and she and the birth father have showed some interest in us. An agency in St. Louis contacted our agency and asked if they had anyone who fit the profile the birth parents were looking for. They wanted a younger couple who didn't have any children...which we definitely fit! However, agencies really don't suggest looking seriously at adoptive parent profiles until the 5th-7th month so this is obviously way early, and a lot can happen in 7 months. Also, because they are working on this so early, they are talking with more than one couple, which means even if they do stick with their decision to make an adoption plan for their child, we may not be the couple they pick. I have been very impressed with everything I have heard about these birth parents though, and they seem to be really responsible and want to do what is best for their baby rather than what is best for them. We will be going up some time next week to meet them, so hopefully that will go well, we will all feel comfortable together and we can learn more about each other and about their desires for their coming baby.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up, because I know that the majority of birth parents ultimately decide to parent their child, but the timing of this just seems to perfect. She isn't due until March which means my programs would both be out of the way, and out of the 8 weeks of my "maternity leave," 3 of those wouldn't even involve music instruction in my classroom because of spring break and 2 weeks of testing. That would leave only a few weeks left in May before summer came, and we think Nate would be able to take off or work from home then, so that our baby wouldn't have to be in someone else's care until he or she was 6 months old. I would feel a lot more comfortable about leaving my child with someone else at 6 months rather than 2 months. We are praying we are able to find child care with someone we know, but first we need a baby to get child care for! So this whole thing is either God showing us how he works in every situation, or Satan trying to get my hopes up and then dash them. No matter what happens though, it was a huge comfort to know there was someone who was actually considering us to be the parents of their baby. One of the biggest things I have been struggling with is feelings of inadequacy, that maybe no birth parents will ever want to choose us. So I am definitely thankful for this in that regard.
Please pray that God's will is done, and if we aren't meant to have this baby that my heart won't be too badly broken. And please pray for this baby, that all the decisions that are made are all in thinking about the baby's best interests, rather than my best interests or the birth parents' best interests.
I am very excited because Nate and I got an email today about a possible birth mother. This was definitely out of the blue because I figured we had months to wait before we would even be considered at all. This isn't a normal situation and there certainly isn't anything definite, which is why I was cautious about sharing it. The birth mother is 2 months pregnant, and she and the birth father have showed some interest in us. An agency in St. Louis contacted our agency and asked if they had anyone who fit the profile the birth parents were looking for. They wanted a younger couple who didn't have any children...which we definitely fit! However, agencies really don't suggest looking seriously at adoptive parent profiles until the 5th-7th month so this is obviously way early, and a lot can happen in 7 months. Also, because they are working on this so early, they are talking with more than one couple, which means even if they do stick with their decision to make an adoption plan for their child, we may not be the couple they pick. I have been very impressed with everything I have heard about these birth parents though, and they seem to be really responsible and want to do what is best for their baby rather than what is best for them. We will be going up some time next week to meet them, so hopefully that will go well, we will all feel comfortable together and we can learn more about each other and about their desires for their coming baby.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up, because I know that the majority of birth parents ultimately decide to parent their child, but the timing of this just seems to perfect. She isn't due until March which means my programs would both be out of the way, and out of the 8 weeks of my "maternity leave," 3 of those wouldn't even involve music instruction in my classroom because of spring break and 2 weeks of testing. That would leave only a few weeks left in May before summer came, and we think Nate would be able to take off or work from home then, so that our baby wouldn't have to be in someone else's care until he or she was 6 months old. I would feel a lot more comfortable about leaving my child with someone else at 6 months rather than 2 months. We are praying we are able to find child care with someone we know, but first we need a baby to get child care for! So this whole thing is either God showing us how he works in every situation, or Satan trying to get my hopes up and then dash them. No matter what happens though, it was a huge comfort to know there was someone who was actually considering us to be the parents of their baby. One of the biggest things I have been struggling with is feelings of inadequacy, that maybe no birth parents will ever want to choose us. So I am definitely thankful for this in that regard.
Please pray that God's will is done, and if we aren't meant to have this baby that my heart won't be too badly broken. And please pray for this baby, that all the decisions that are made are all in thinking about the baby's best interests, rather than my best interests or the birth parents' best interests.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
First Days of School
Well I had my first two days of school with kids this past week. Even though some people think going to school for two days is pointless, I really enjoy it. I always forget how much the kids and the schedule wears me out, and I always start losing my voice, so having a weekend so soon after school starts gives me time to recuperate.
I am really enjoying my classes so far, and I love going to school knowing exactly what classes I will be teaching...as opposed to my last job where I had new subjects or grades almost every year. The only problems I have had so far were kindergartners who had to go to the bathroom constantly, and didn't really know how to act in school. I can't expect too much from them the first 2 days though.
School starting is kinda stressing me out as far as baby stuff goes though. September will have been 9 months since we officially decided to start this process, so that's kinda depressing, because if I had been able to get pregnant I would have had a baby by then. Also, school starting causes a whole other set of problems with this adoption stuff. If we knew exactly when our baby was coming and had had 9 months to prepare, then I could have rearranged my programs to fit around my maternity leave. As it is, we don't know how much time we have before our baby comes, and I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do if we get the call right in the middle of preparing for a program. And our auditorium is so booked that I couldn't even reschedule them. I know my principal would understand, but it wouldn't be fair to my students. On top of that, since we have no idea when its going to be, we can't make any childcare arrangements. I really don't want to leave my child with strangers, but I do want to make sure we have somewhere to take him or her. So many places require waiting for months on a waiting list though, so I'm not sure what to do.
I know that God has a plan and his timing is perfect, but I just want to know what I need to be doing to prepare. Please pray I figure out what God wants me to do.
I am really enjoying my classes so far, and I love going to school knowing exactly what classes I will be teaching...as opposed to my last job where I had new subjects or grades almost every year. The only problems I have had so far were kindergartners who had to go to the bathroom constantly, and didn't really know how to act in school. I can't expect too much from them the first 2 days though.
School starting is kinda stressing me out as far as baby stuff goes though. September will have been 9 months since we officially decided to start this process, so that's kinda depressing, because if I had been able to get pregnant I would have had a baby by then. Also, school starting causes a whole other set of problems with this adoption stuff. If we knew exactly when our baby was coming and had had 9 months to prepare, then I could have rearranged my programs to fit around my maternity leave. As it is, we don't know how much time we have before our baby comes, and I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do if we get the call right in the middle of preparing for a program. And our auditorium is so booked that I couldn't even reschedule them. I know my principal would understand, but it wouldn't be fair to my students. On top of that, since we have no idea when its going to be, we can't make any childcare arrangements. I really don't want to leave my child with strangers, but I do want to make sure we have somewhere to take him or her. So many places require waiting for months on a waiting list though, so I'm not sure what to do.
I know that God has a plan and his timing is perfect, but I just want to know what I need to be doing to prepare. Please pray I figure out what God wants me to do.
Monday, August 2, 2010
Homestudy done!
Well our homestudy is basically done! We had our last interview today, and our case worker said she should have it done by the end of the week and will send it to our agency. The interview was actually done pretty quickly and we didn't have to answer any really uncomfortable questions. I'm very thankful to have this done. We're not completely through with it yet, because once our agency receives it, they have to approve our homestudy before we can be placed in the pool of adoptive parents waiting to be chosen by birthparents. Not sure how long it will take to find out if our agency approves our homestudy or not, so pray that goes quickly.
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